Self-esteem shapes our inner voice. How we think, what we believe we deserve, and how we respond to challenges have a huge effect on how we treat ourselves and others, and it also influences the kinds of choices we make in everyday life.

In their tutor sessions our Key Stage 3 students have been learning how self-esteem can be influenced by a range of factors, including experiences at school, relationships with friends and family, social media, achievements, and setbacks. They have also learned that self-esteem can change over time, with moments when we feel confident and positive, and others when we feel unsure or critical of ourselves, and that this is a normal part of life.

Importantly, our students learned that having a healthy self-esteem doesn’t mean thinking we are perfect or better than others. Instead, it means having a balanced and realistic view of ourselves, and that we recognise our strengths while also accepting that we have areas to improve, just like everyone else.

Equally important is ensuring they understand that low self-esteem can sometimes lead to negative patterns, such as avoiding challenges, comparing ourselves constantly to others, or being overly self-critical. On the other hand, building stronger self-esteem can improve overall wellbeing, helping us to feel more confident, resilient, and able to cope with difficulties.

Looking after our physical wellbeing can support your self-esteem too. Getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active all contribute to how we feel mentally and emotionally. When our body feels better, our mindset often follows.

Students also learned of the importance of surrounding themselves with supportive people, and that spending time with those who respect and encourage us can strengthen how we see ourselves. At the same time, reducing exposure to negative influences, whether online or in real life, protects our self-esteem.

The key message has been that improving self-esteem is a gradual process, not something that changes overnight, but by making small, consistent efforts, it is possible to build a healthier relationship with ourselves that can lead to better decision-making, stronger relationships, and an overall sense of wellbeing.